Did You Forget that He Still Checks You Out During the Winter?

In my daily travels, I am amazed at how many women focus less on their appearance when the winter months arrive.  I don't get it.  Shouldn't you want to look good all of the time?  When you look better, you feel better.  I know I do.  I am not suggesting that you wear heels every day, although they do make you look sexier.  Instead, adorn fashions that suit your personality and your lifestyle and make self-care a priority.

A few friends inspired this blog post.  My friends span the gamut -- from fashionistas to beauty gurus to those who just don't give a shit.  There is one who is so afraid to be seen without makeup that she won't even retrieve mail from the mailbox without looking flawless.  Another friend applies makeup every morning before she leaves the bathroom.  Her husband and children don't see her without her new face.  Now, this is an extreme job and is definitely not for everyone, but I must say that it is admirable.  These women always make a concerted effort to look fabulous.  They primarily do it for themselves, but they also view it as important to keep their men interested and happy.  Based on their comments, it is working.

Hi Honey, how was your day?

Now, here is the main issue.  The women who feel that they only need to care about themselves during the spring and summer months.  From friends and acquaintances, I have heard the following comments:

• I don't care until March.
• I don't waste time getting pedicures until the spring.

Really?  I am certain that they represent many women who share the same sentiment.  Why do some women care less about their appearances when the cold weather comes knocking?  I don't understand this line of thinking.  You pay close attention to your fashion and beauty regimens when the weather is warm, when you can get the attention of others and when you can be more impressive to others.  But, for the one who sees you daily, for the one who you lay next to every night, for the one with whom you are intimate, for the one whose affections you seek, you don't care enough to look good every day.  WTF??

I wonder what their husbands think.  I know I want and need ongoing attention from my husband.  If these women are lucky, their husbands are still checking them out.  Why not strive to maintain his interest every single day.  Keep him focused (on you)!

As a working mom of two, I understand the challenge of making self-care a priority, especially given that most of us make family the priority.  However, I have found that I am the happiest when I take care of myself to look and feel my best.  Oh yeah, I need to mention that I am also a wife who wants to keep her man enticed and interested.   We have been married for 19 years and I do what I can to keep his interest.  Trust me, he reaps the benefits.

Keep it sexy,

Bri
@MakeoverMommy
https://www.facebook.com/SuburbanMommyMakeover

Do You Have MomJo?

Recently, I watched a reality show that I view every now and then, Guiliana & Bill.  Guiliana was spending time with her infant son and her mother.  They talked about motherhood and how she is open to what will come with her journey.

During their conversation, she touched on the importance of maintaining her MomJo. Her MomJo? I immediately connected with her.  For many of us, once we become moms, we lose ourselves.  We get so wrapped up in our children, understandably, and give them 150%.  There isn't anything remaining for us.  We grow accustom to depriving ourselves of many things, whether it be entertainment or simple indulgences such as spa retreats, date night with the hubby or girls night out.  Although they may be simple, they are crucial to our sanity.

Having MomJo is being a phenomenal mother, yet still being a sexy woman.  Although the role of mom is probably the most important one you will assume, you can still look fabulous for yourself and your significant other.  You can still engage in the activities that make you whole, those that make you happy.  The point is that we are all leading very hectic lives, however, the key is to maintain a sense of self and not completely comprise it.

Guiliana understands the importance of maintaining her MomJo and so should you!

As a mom of 2 who has been married for 18 years, lost her MomJo along the way and has worked hard to regain it, I share these words of wisdom.

Keep it sexy!

Sabrina
Suburban Mom