My New Lashes!!!

In one of my earlier blogs, I wrote about eyelash extensions and I shared that I am on the path of physical self improvement.  I want to look fabulous all day, every day.  I am very open to doing whatever I need/want to do to make this happen.  So, in addition to working out more regularly and eating healthier, I am indulging in non-surgical (at least for now) enhancements.

I recently had my eyelashes extended and I love them.  My husband (the one who hates everything that is "not-so-natural") loves them too.  Take a look at the before and after pictures:

Before

After

What do you think?

Keeping it sexy...

Sabrina
Suburban Mom

Do You Have MomJo?

Recently, I watched a reality show that I view every now and then, Guiliana & Bill.  Guiliana was spending time with her infant son and her mother.  They talked about motherhood and how she is open to what will come with her journey.

During their conversation, she touched on the importance of maintaining her MomJo. Her MomJo? I immediately connected with her.  For many of us, once we become moms, we lose ourselves.  We get so wrapped up in our children, understandably, and give them 150%.  There isn't anything remaining for us.  We grow accustom to depriving ourselves of many things, whether it be entertainment or simple indulgences such as spa retreats, date night with the hubby or girls night out.  Although they may be simple, they are crucial to our sanity.

Having MomJo is being a phenomenal mother, yet still being a sexy woman.  Although the role of mom is probably the most important one you will assume, you can still look fabulous for yourself and your significant other.  You can still engage in the activities that make you whole, those that make you happy.  The point is that we are all leading very hectic lives, however, the key is to maintain a sense of self and not completely comprise it.

Guiliana understands the importance of maintaining her MomJo and so should you!

As a mom of 2 who has been married for 18 years, lost her MomJo along the way and has worked hard to regain it, I share these words of wisdom.

Keep it sexy!

Sabrina
Suburban Mom

He Loves You but He Doesn't Lust After You

Do you ever find yourself questioning whether or not your husband still wants you?  In the early stages of your marriage, I am sure that your love making sessions were hot and heavy.  Experimentation and exploration of each other led to intense, pleasurable moments.  Right?  Even if his sexual appetite was greater than yours, you probably felt really good to be wanted.  He ensured that he showed you how badly you were desired.  You felt sexy.  But things have changed over the last few years.  Intimacy is limited, love making is less intense and infrequent, and sex is just that, sex.  So, what happened?  Life...

Life got serious.  You created your path and worked hard for the marriage, the 2.5 children, the house in the suburbs.  After careers, children, mortgages, car payments, tuition, etc., everyone has to grow up.  We all change once responsibilities increase and challenges arise.  Unfortunately, it changes who we are and who we become.  As women, we change physically and emotionally.  In many cases, it is not an improvement.  Men watch intently for the change, as they are often told that this occurs within women after marriage and childbirth.  Don't satisfy this anticipation.

If you realize the love making (if it exists) just isn't the same, do something about it.  Don't give up so easily.  Don't succumb to the thought of "I am his wife and the mother of his children and he should accept me for who I am".  That is bullshit.  Yes, he knows this but he still wants the maternal woman to take care of him and his kids, and I hate to say it, he wants the whore in the bedroom.  Face it, that's just the way it is.

Yes, it is acknowledging that men are physical and visual.  You know that your appearance is crucial to keeping his attention.  Didn't you look beautiful when you first met?  Didn't you ensure that each time you went on a date you looked fabulous to make him want you?  It is still important if you want to keep him.

Can you honestly look in the mirror and say that you always look your best and feel secure that your man thinks you look wonderful?  If you are hesitant in responding positively, then imagine what he is thinking and feeling.  Stop wearing sweats everywhere you go.  Apply a little makeup to polish your look.  Lose the excessive weight to look your best, to be healthy and to increase your stamina.  He will notice.  He may also begin to show you, again, that he is interested in being with you intimately.

Keep in mind that you are competing with the women he spends time with at the office, the women he meets when he is traveling for business, the women he sees every morning when he purchases his coffee.  Regardless of what is going on in their lives, if they are on their way to work, they probably look darn good.  They are putting their best foot forward.  This is what he sees every single day during the week.  This is who you are competing with for his attention.

Many women believe they will forever be bonded to their men emotionally and physically because they have children and they have built a life together.  The reality is that people change and often men want the family life, but they also want a hot wife who stimulates them.  You were able to do it once and you can do it again.

As a woman who has been happily married for 18 years, rears two children, manages a household and runs a business, I believe I have earned the right to provide you with a little advice.  Always look your best to feel your best.  When you feel your best, you do your best.  Make a concerted effort to be fabulous every day.  When he witnesses the change in you, he will return.  He will want you.  He will lust after you.

To your mommy reinvention,

Sabrina
Suburban Mom